advice from dr. syazmir...

men agree that one of the most attractive qualities in a woman is when she's self-assured...likes herself...is comfortable with who she is.. .likes how she looks and most importantly.. she's happy... it's impossible to be all those things when u're shy or insecure... insecurity means u r worrying about how other ppl see YOU..how they feel bout YOU.. and how they judge YOU... so.. if u want to overcome your feeling of insecurity.. the first thing u should do is to learn how to make yourself happy without the need of other people's help.. learn how to love yourself.. spend some time on yourself to be pampered and do the things that would make u feel beautiful and wonderful... go to the saloon.. go to the health spa.. do things that u wouldnt normally do.. and prove that u can be a fun person without changing who u are..without being someone else that u're not..take some time to reach deep inside your innerself.. sometimes it can be surprising that a lot of us know more about other ppl than knowing ourselves..it's even surprising that some friends know us better than we know about ourselves...how can we learn to love ourselves if we don't even know bout ourselves well.. when u feel happy and comfortable of who u really are.. automatically u will feel more secure about yourself... thus, making u more attractive and invulnerable from other ppl's perception.. :) to whom it may concern... trust me.. if u can overcome your insecurity & inferiority.. u will be a lot more happy and u can be happy with anyone u want.. eventhough u dun hv to hear this from someone else.. trust me.. if u see what i see in u thru my eyes.. u'll know how special u really are.. i have the gift to see the beauty in ppl eventhough themselves can't see it.. and u are one of the most beautiful person i have ever encountered in my life.. love yourself and ppl will love u more.. =)